Self Love Saturday: MILF Edition.

I know, TECHNICALLY when I posted this on a Sunday. I have a one month old. Forgive me..

 Ever since I had my daughter, I've been working on my self confidence. I spent most of my pregnancy talking about losing weight and getting skinny after I had Rylee and becoming a "MILF". After some self discovery, I realized that being a MILF is all about confidence. It would be more beneficial to my physical health as well as my mental health if I worked on eating healthy and being healthy rather than on losing weight. I also realized that I needed to work on my self love rather than give into the hatred I've felt about my body for years. Part of me learning to love myself is teaching other women to do so as well. Thats why I decided to start my "Self Love Saturdays". Each week I will have 3-5 women (usually mothers) guest write about what makes them confident, or what makes them feel like a MILF. My goal is that by reading this, other women will be inspired to make the change into self love as well. Enjoy!

Sarah @Simply__SarahJ
I think I am a MILF because I have confidence in myself. Being a MILF is all about how you view yourself and how you carry yourself. I may not be a size two or have the greatest clothes but I am beautiful in my own way. I have a attitude of positivity and don't let what other people think of me or say to me bring me down. What matters is that I know I am the best me I can be. I am in control of my body and mind and although there are things I want to change about myself I refuse to hate myself and get brought down by negative thoughts. That is what makes me a MILF. 










Nichole @BitchoftheBayou
When I hear the term milf, I don't take it literally! In my eyes a milf is a strong, confident, mother who holds herself with pride. It makes me feel good to know that even after all the changes my body has gone through, people still find me pretty. Confidence is key! 







Tiffany @Tiffany_1208xo
At 22 I found out I was pregnant. At that time I had just returned from a family vacation and I was really tan and naturally I am a skinny girl so I was feeling really good about my body, sexy almost. When I found out I was pregnant I just remembered that I am creating a human life and whatever happens to my body happens. Pre-pregnancy I was 120lbs, when I delivered at 38 weeks and 2 days I was 180lbs. I had moderate-severe preeclampsia and from week 36-38 I gained 20lbs, so I was induced. Before I even left the hospital I had dropped 30 lbs, and over the next couple weeks I lost another 10. I am now almost 5 months post-partum and am still at 140lbs. I have a great support system that always reminds me I am beautiful so sometimes I believe them. I was not and am still not the girl who could fit in her old size 2 jeans after delivering, so after a bout of crying on my first shopping trip I told myself that I don't need to fit in a size 2 to feel pretty. That day I walked out in a size 8 pair of jeans and I felt good. The main reason I feel good about myself is I have a beautiful little boy whom I brought into this world. And if he doesn't care that I'm a size 2, then I don't need to either. So now I am a size 8 with my happy baby on my hip with a lot of confidence in myself as a whole, not just my body.



I was going to do mine this week, however with it being so late and since I was so busy yesterday, I decided not to. I'm for sure going to do mine next week! Keep a lookout!

Medically Cleared: Time To Get Healthy!

I had my check up today (06/19/2013).
It was two weeks earlier but he said that everything is looking good and I was cleared for exercise, work and sex. All in all it was rather boring. However, I did get put back on birth control and I talked to my doctor about my PPD. I got prescribed Zoloft which I started taking today. I'm not supposed to notice any change until 2-3 weeks from now, but I'm excited to feel like myself again!

The point of this post is that now that I've been cleared, I can start to get fit. I'm thinking of at some point starting to run. My husband started when he decided to join the Army and he really loves it, so I was going to give it a shot too! I'm going to start light though. I've never really done much in the way of exercise. I'm excited to get started! Even if I don't lose a lot of weight, my whole goal is to be healthy and happy.

Physically, I don't really care to lose too much in weight or even pants size. I mostly just want to tone up. I like my hips etc. I love being curvy. I just hate my belly. That's really all I want to change.

My pre-pregnancy weight: 230lbs
Top pregnancy weight: 250lbs
My Current Weight: 234lbs
My Goal Weight: 170lbs

Mostly, I just want to be under 200lbs again. I never thought I would get this big and I never want to be this big again. However, this journey will mostly be to love myself, no matter how I end up.

Body Love Conference 2014

All my life, I have had issues accepting my body for what it is. I'm full figured to say the least and I've always had body issues when it comes to my weight and body shape. I've tried to lose weight in many ways both healthy and unhealthy and nothing ever seems to work with me. I was just born big. Recently I decided, no more diets, no more worrying about weight loss, my only goal now is to be healthy. If I happen to lose weight in the process of being healthier, that's great! If not, oh well. I decided I needed to focus more on how I see myself rather than changing myself to fit impossible ideals of how a woman should look.

On average, women see over 200 negative body image advertisements every day.

I remember reading that and realizing, there is nothing wrong with me but there is everything wrong with media and how society views women. All bodies are good bodies, you don't have to be a size two with huge tits and a round ass to be pretty or desired, you just have to be you and love the skin you're in.

I'm working on my self esteem and my confidence, so expect a post now and then about it. I'm telling you now, if you don't want to look at my fat body either skip reading those posts in the future, or unfollow my blog. I wont post anything nude or overly suggestive, so no worries. (I have a daughter, you know.)

I was thrilled to find out that Jes from The Militant Baker is planning on hosting the first Body Love Conference in April of 2014 provided that she comes up with the money to do so by July 5th.


For my Arizona followers, I figured this would be a good chance for you and your daughters to attend something that teaches them self worth and confidence.

However, this wont happen without a little help! Check out Jes's blog for more information or if you would like, feel free to donate to the cause!

Along with that, I hope you all enjoy my journey towards Body Love!